5:30 Hear Bea calling for us on the monitor. Look at the
clock and grimace. Her usual wake up
time is 6-6:30 but just for funsies she’s been getting up at 5: 30 the last
week or so. DMS gets her , puts her in
bed with me, gets dressed and
leaves. He gives himself a generous 8
minutes to get up, dressed and to the bus stop in the morning. It’s amazing but
he makes his bus most mornings. Bea
cries that she doesn’t want more sleep.
I roll over.
5:55 Lou busts into my room, announces he’s hungry and jumps
into the bed. His hair, per usual, is sticking straight up. He is one of those
people that is AWAKE and READY FOR THE DAY as soon as his eyes open. It can be a lot to handle if you aren’t one
of those people. Ahem. The
kids start playing and annoying each other so I shush them loudly and try to
sleep 5 more minutes.
6:05 I give up and take everyone to the kitchen to start
breakfast. I give Bea her food first (yogurt with cereal mixed in) and have Lou
check his blood sugar while I weigh out his food. We discuss what he wants to eat (cereal with
milk, a banana that he will cut into his cereal) so I know how much insulin to
give him. One of our bar stools broke so
Bea has been demoted to the booster and Lou doesn’t like the remaining bar
stool so he eats at the dining room.
They are quieter in this set up but I actually like the camaraderie that
the kitchen bar affords and make a mental note to order more stools.
6:30 Go to my room, make the bed, get dressed in sweats
because I’m just taking the big kids to school and I can’t wear pants with a
button this early in the morning. Its an
affront to my sensibilities. Hang up my
clothes from last night, think about how closest needs to be organized and add
that to the mental list of Things I Should Do. Bea calls for me and says she’s
done eating. I go back to kitchen.
6:31 Go to take Bea out of the booster but realize she’s
only “done” because her brother is done and she wants to play too. Lou eats
like he’s in prison and someone will take his food if he leaves it too
long. He eats more than anyone I know
(kid or adult) and he eats faster than anyone I know (kid or adult.) He’s also
built like a whippet. I take her out knowing she will come back and eat two
more times before we leave. The kids
play in living room because the baby still sleeping (all three kids share a
room.) I wash breakfast dishes, make a
bottle for the baby. Have a few moments
of quiet, I watch the kids play some sort of animal/lego/pretend game that
involves a lot of toys and all the couch pillows.
6:45 Hear the baby, Bea says she has to poop.
6:47 False alarm. “The poop isn’t ready, it still has to get
dressed.” I feed the baby. Lou barges
in. If Charlie gets wind that any of his siblings are awake he refuses to eat
and wants to watch/interact with them.
Lou’s interruption means Charlie is done and he starts squirming out of
my hands. He drank half an ounce and
will be a delight because of this on the way home from carpool. (He won’t
finish a bottle until the kids are out of the house.) I’m annoyed at Lou
because he knows he not allowed in the room while I feed the baby. I hold on to
this anger longer than I should.
6:48 Big kids get dressed/run around naked while I get the
baby dressed. After much cajoling, all three are ready. I attempt to help Bea with her sock that is
twisted she gets upset. I tell her to
relax, I’m just fixing the toe part. She
tells me to chillax she wants to do it.
7:06 All kids dressed, hair and teeth brushed. I leave them
to attack each other. Go make my breakfast.
7:08 Fiber One Honey Clusters with milk and my iphone. Catch
up on social media. Listen for the kids to make sure they aren’t maiming the
baby.
7:20 I hear too much noise. Mom radar says something is
amiss. I go into the kids room and find
Bea has re-decorated the play kitchen and other furniture with Dora stickers.
7:25 We remove all the Dora stickers and I tell the big kids
to start getting shoes and coats on. I
try to feed Charlie one more time and he ends up drinking 5 ounces. Awesome!
Lou’s sneaker strap broke and I’m still waiting for his new pair to
arrive from Zappos. In the meantime he’s wearing a pair that are way too small
but he has PE and can’t wear boots today. Bea opts for her sparkly mary janes even
though she has PE too. For some people less is more, for Bea, more is more. Charlie goes in the infant car seat. I feel like he’s getting too big for it but
he’s only 7 months and on the small side.
Can he really be outgrowing this?
7:30 We walk down a flight of stairs to pick up Lou’s best
friend who is also our carpool. I leave Bea with them (they take the
pre-school contingent, I get the big kids) and take the boys to the elevator.
7:40 Fitting 3 kids in the back of Accord is annoying but
do-able. It’s less annoying than car
payments.
7:47 Hit the road. Its 5 exits on the highway to school,
kids hop out and go into the building on their own, I drive back.
8:30 Back Home. Am sooooo tired. So very tired. Charlie is asleep in the back seat so I power
nap in the garage for 10 minutes. This
is not an infrequent occurrence.
8:45 Made it home without waking up Charlie. The curse of
high-rise living is that to get from the garage to our apartment 30 stories up
involves going through three loud metal fire doors and an elevator ride with at
least one dog. I put Charlie in the kids
room and shut the door. I make my
beloved coffee and wash Charlie’s bottle and Bea’s dishes.
9:00 The nanny arrives.
We chit chat and then I head to my “office” aka the desk in my room. I
really just want to spend the day reading Life After Life so I can finish
before book club on Sunday but I have a grant update I need to finish by end of
day Wednesday and a host of other kinda urgent work stuff so that’s not happen.
10:00 Phone meeting with my boss. Hear the nanny singing
Gwen Stefani’s B-A-N-A-N-A song to
Charlie as she feeds him a banana.
10:30 Phone meeting is over.
She has moved onto “bananas in pajamas dancing everywhere…” I debate more coffee but know that if I do I
won’t be able to have a diet coke this afternoon and decide to wait for the
soda later. I want a snack but don’t
want to have to go out and see Charlie and the nanny. I should also focus on my
project. I think about the cookies in
the cabinet.
12:30 I’m annoyed at my project. I have too many screens
open on the computer, my desk is messy
and I feel disorganized. It feels like
I’ve been working for years. I decide to break for lunch but am unhappy with my
progress. Mentally calculate how much I
can still do before afternoon carpool and how much I will have to do tonight. I go to the kitchen and make my salad
(cucumber, bel pepper, tomato,
pistachio, tuna- no mayo, handful of shredded cheese) and head back to my desk. Poke around on the internet while I eat.
2:10 I have to leave for carpool. Really I have to leave so
I’ll have enough time to stop at Walgreens and then go get the big kids. This
means I have to wear real pants. I do not like this idea. Legs ache a bit from
sitting all day. Regret my decision to
drop out of bootcamp.
3:00 sitting in the carpool line and wishing I had Life
After Life. The 15 minutes in carpool
with my book are one of my secret joys during the day.
3:15 boys are in the car chattering about their day. Its Dr.
Seuss week and they read green eggs and
ham day and ate eggs with spinach, toast and jam. We drive to their after-school program which
is at Bea’s pre-school. I stop at the
produce market on the way and pick up 10lbs of sweet potato and some
parsley. The pre-school is co-op ish and
all the parents have to bring in food for lunch a few times a year. I have no idea what’s on the menu this week
but now I know they’ll be getting sweet potato.
4:00 drop off the boys pick up Bea and head home.
4:30 Bea is weepy about something. Unclear exactly what. Perhaps 5:30 is too early a wake up? Hmmm?
She watches Sophia the first and I take Charlie to the Bath. Bea announces she
is not taking a bath today.
5:00 Nanny leaves, feed Bea dinner (leftover chicken, sliced
bel pepper, leftover rice, water with ice) bring up the subject of her
upcoming bath. Meet resistance. Put on
some Pandora (family folk songs station) and we sing along. Charlie sits on the counter watching Bea
eat. We sing, he yells.
5:30 Take a non-cooperative Bea to the bath, let her have
playtime while I go make Charlie a bottle. Check in on Bea, she’s heavily
soaping her arms.
5:45 Lou comes home, he gets the same dinner as Bea and eats
in under 3 minutes. Escapes the table to
go play on the floor with Charlie. Game
soon devolves into him being some sort of animal that climbs. Charlie is
unhappy that Lou moved on. Wash Bea, get her in PJs, brush her hair. She asks
for more Sophia and I give in so I can put Charlie to bed.
6:00 Charlie goes to bed, Lou takes a shower by himself, I read
to Bea on the couch. Check on Lou who
will take a 40 steaming hot shower if I let him. Remind him about soap. And rinsing. Remind
him to come out. Go back 10 minutes later and remind him again.
6:30 Lou is in PJs. Kids playing in the living room. I clean
up from dinner. Wash bottle. Go through
Lou’s back pack. Check the calendar for the next day. Give Bea a 10 minute
warning for bed.
6:45 Start negotiating with Bea about bed.
7:00 Pick Bea up, have her fly like Superman to the bathroom
and then to bed. When she first moved
into the bottom bunk, she asked for a big
poufy blanket and proceeded to only sleep on top of it which always makes me
think of the princess and the pea story.
We say our prayers and I tell her how proud I am of her that she had
such a wonderful day. She says she’s proud of me too. She rolls over and is
asleep 30 seconds later. I check on Charlie, he’s horizontal in his crib but
fast asleep so all is good. Go back to living room and Lou.
7:30 Have quiet time with Lou. Talk about his day, whatever
is on his mind (animals, how to build things, cars, weather phenomena) and read
a book. I would love for him to read to me but he only wants me to read to
him. He asks to sleep in my bed but I tell him I have to work more tonight
and he as to sleep in his bed. We go to
his room and he crawls up to the top bunk. I stand on a stool next to the bed
and say prayers with him and rub his back for a minute. He says his bed is
“like a desert” and therefore, too hot to sleep in. My bed however, is “lower
down and much, much colder.” Nice try. He stays in his bed.
7:45 Lie on the couch and text DMS to see when he’s coming
home. Try not to fall asleep. Think about making myself dinner. Lie on the
couch more.
8:15 Wake up. Stumble to the kitchen and make myself dinner
(leftover hamburgers from Monday.) Eat at the coffee table in front of the TV.
Wait for DMS.
8:30 DMS comes home we chit chat about the day. He lays on
the sofa. We watch an episode of Chopped.
9:30 Putter around the house. Clean up a bit. DMS makes
himself dinner. We talk about stuff we need to do, when we should have Lou’s
birthday party, life stuff.
10:30 I start getting ready for bed. DMS makes Lou’s lunch
for the next day and refills his back pack with his insulin supplies. I read a
bit in bed and doze off. DMS comes to bed a few hours later. He stays up to do
work and have some downtime.
Hopefully none of the kids wake up. Someone usually does- Bea needing water,
Charlie wanting a bottle, Lou going to the bathroom. A good night is just one kid waking up, a bad
night is all three.
Here’s hoping for a
good night….